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Let’s not mince words; when we say conflict, we’re really talking about jealousy, right? His jealousy could be considered justified from a conventional perspective. Look at what we’re suggesting in a Fusion Polyamorous relationship. You, the woman, get to be with and have sex with whomever you choose, while he remains emotionally and physically monogamous. Those intense feelings and emotions are real. But what do we do? We resort to what we females know how to do: we talk them out, we attempt to get down to the base alloy of it all to reconcile and bring our vast reservoir of care and cooperation to bear.   Sorry, that is not what is called for here and it won’t work. We’re not at all suggesting you abandon your sensitive and caring nature, because threats, intolerance, and hostility towards him will not have the power to convert him. We are asking that you view your polyamorous relationship from a non-conventional perspective. You simply need to learn to speak a man’s language.  He’s into you, or you wouldn’t be together. But have you noticed, ever since you entered into the pact that you are exclusive to each other, things have changed? Remember how he was when you were first dating, when he didn’t yet “have” you and you were in fact available to other men? That’s where we need to get back to, but without sacrificing the intimacy, the bonding, and the love you’ve developed. You must let him know that part of your relationship is not under threat; you love him from a place deep in your heart. The secret that every woman should learn is that men also have a deeply rooted structure in them known as sperm competition where, when men have the “knowledge” that their mate is sexually available to other males, they get extremely aroused and turned on with the urge to replace another man’s semen with his own. This structure is millions of years in the making.  This is a primordial urge and exists far below the male’s strategy of mate guarding, shoeing away other males interested in you while attempting to instill a sense of ownership of you and keep you for himself. Again, totally understandable, but an obsolete strategy in this day and age and he needs to know that is not where those battles take place any longer. The normal rationale would be to sit down and have a meaningful conversation about his jealousy as if we could somehow talk it all away.  Here is how you deal with his jealousy. Your interactions with other men (or women) that are of a sexual nature can and should be discussed, but only on your terms. In moments of sexual intimacy, while he is in the throes of your erotic provocations and sexual influence, only then will you tell all. The pleasurable chemicals you are eliciting in his brain that are part of the Fusion Method are what reprogram his motivations and behavior, and the more you do it, the more it takes hold. You are training him to associate his sexual pleasure, which we all know to take precedence over his rational thinking mind, with your sexual availability to other partners.  Fusion Polyamory can teach you the techniques and guide you through the process whereby you honor and cherish the love you both share for each other in an emotionally monogamous relationship along with fanning the flames of the excitement of your sexual freedom and needs. Where Conflict Gets Resolved

Am I Selfish for Wanting More? So you love him, we get it. In the society we are living in today, is it even taboo to talk about love! We are all so caught up with work, growth, and internet gurus that talking about love gets more uncomfortable. Still, we do. We love, and that is how it’s supposed to be. Do you feel that too? Congratulations, if you are a woman with so much heart and soul, to acknowledge that about yourself! But love isn’t enough; that’s what you figured out, correct? I figured that because if you are still reading this, it is because you asked yourself about that title. And if you are doing that, it is because it resonates with you. So you have doubts. Not about loving your man, of course; that part is clear. But the “being selfish part.” The answer is: no, you are not. Let’s start with the obvious: women are complex by nature. We have to be. Think about how women can bring another human being into the world…an inherently complex process!  Women’s needs are complex as well. Fusion Polyamory lays out in detail how there are two mating patterns for us females. The first has to do with finding a reliable partner to establish a base of emotional, practical, and social stability. That home base is often the foundation for bringing children into the world, establishing a career, or engaging in a creative and rewarding endeavor. Not that a partner is needed to achieve those things, but a relationship needs to be compatible and supportive of your goals and dreams.  The second mating pattern of females has to do with the desire to seek out and mate with novel and superior male genes. That impulse has been part of our evolutionary development from the beginning of our human roots.  The conflict comes from attempting to combine both of those urges into one relationship and it kind of feels like ramming a square peg into a round hole doesn’t it? We try because we’ve been told that is how it works.  It doesn’t have to be that way and in honesty, it can’t anymore. Marriages are failing at a rate of over 50% and 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Relationships are being entered into with the best of intentions but something about how we conduct those monogamous relationships doesn’t work for the long term. Something needs to change.  Fusion Polyamory shows us a new blueprint for relationships. The schematic may look completely foreign to you at first, but dive in further; you will begin to see how the inherent structures in all of us allow for a new kind of female-led relationship that serves both women and men.  Relationships require work and commitment and, above anything else, honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. That is the best policy. Am I Selfish for Wanting More? Let us help you on your journey. In the meantime: take care of yourself.

Loving multiple people simultaneously doesn’t make anyone a cheater unless the person feels like they have no other option. Most monogamous marriages end because of infidelity. Imagine if all those people have been introduced to a form of relationship that wouldn’t have forced them to cheat because there is multiple love involved, and everybody knows about it and agrees with it. Wouldn’t that be a much smarter solution? I am sure you know by now that we are talking about Polyamory. You might have heard about it; you might have researched it and still don’t know how to approach it or what kind of Polyamory is the right one for you. We will clarify that in this article and introduce you to the provocative and female-led: Fusion Polyamory. Sit tight, and let’s dive in! What is Polyamory essentially? Polyamory means having more than one intimate, loving, sexual, and lasting relationship simultaneously with several people, with all involved’s full consent and knowledge. A person who considers themselves emotionally capable of entering into this type of relationship is polyamorous. Polyamory is based on the acceptance of love between three or more people, regardless of their sexual identity; it can occur between women, men, non-binaries, or other genders. Sex, although present, is not the main thing in the relationship. The only condition is love between them and acceptance of the relationship by all. The two essential ingredients of the polyamory concept are “more than one” and “love.” This term does not apply to mere sexual relations with no strings attached, anonymous orgies, prostitution, or other popular definitions of swinging. Characteristics of Polyamory – Loyalty: polyamory practitioners establish honest ties with their partners. Being with another person does not translate as deceit or betrayal because it is part of their agreement. – Communication and negotiation: due to the particularity of the relationship, it is essential to talk about what you feel. There are no written rules; each couple will create their own. The only way for the relationship to succeed is through open and sincere dialogue. – Understanding is the ability of people to be happy for the happiness of others. In the case of Polyamory, it would be the opposite of jealousy, accepting that the loved one may love another person. It is possible not to see the other as an object, freeing oneself from possessive feelings. – Detachment: People in conventional relationships usually agree not to seek other relationships under any circumstances since this would put the primary relationship at risk, either by diluting or replacing it. Polyamorous people believe that these restrictions are not good for a relationship. It replaces trust with possessive prohibitions and puts relationships into an ownership and control structure. Polyamorous people see love for others as enriching their partners’ lives rather than threatening relationships. The old saying, “If you love something, set it free; if it comes back, it’s yours; if not, it never was,” describes a similar view. For this reason, many polyamorous people see the possessive view of relationships as something to be avoided. – Honesty and respect: most polyamorous people emphasize the importance of care and communication with their loved ones. Love should be accepted as part of a person’s life. Forms of Polyamory Polyfidelity Involves multiple romantic relationships where sexual contact is restricted to specific group members. Sub-relationships: Distinguished between “primary” and “secondary” relationships (an example is most open marriages). Geometric agreements Geometric agreements are so named because they allude to geometric shapes. Here are some of them: Trios: can be a “triangle” relationship, where three people have equal relationships with each other; “V” shaped, where one person dates two, but they do not have a relationship with each other; and “T” shaped, where three people date, but two have a stronger relationship with each other than with the third. Quartets: Also called quads, the quartet has an even greater variety of formations. It can be called the “N shape”, when for example, between two men and two women, only they are bisexual and have a relationship with each other; there is the square where everyone has a relationship with each other. The geometry of the relationship can vary over time. Last but not least, and the reason why you came to this particular article: Fusion Polyamory It is where one member is monogamous but accepts that the other is not and maintains outside relationships. And this member is YOU. It is decidedly one-sided. The woman is free to explore her sexual availability with other men or women while remaining emotionally monogamous to her life companion. The book thoroughly explains the Dual Mating Pattern of Females and Sperm Competition Among Males. If that is the version of Polyamory you have been looking for, consider yourself lucky because the Fusion Movement prepared a guide for this exact scenario. In this book, you will learn how to approach your partner and communicate your need for more without hurting or losing him. Relationships require work and commitment and, above anything else, honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your partner. That is the best policy. Let us help you on your journey.  Get Your Copy TODAY! See you on the other side.